Wellbeing - It's Okay Not to Be Okay
| Category: | Wellbeing |
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| Notes: | Best for Scouts BSA-age youth. Good for any meeting, and especially after a hard stretch for the troop or the community. Covers both getting help for yourself and checking on a friend. Have the troop's leaders ready to listen afterward. If a Scout shares something serious, involve their parents and follow youth protection procedures. Part of a Wellbeing series - see the other minutes in this category. |
Everybody has bad days. You get disappointed, you get frustrated, you feel down for a while, and then it passes. That's part of life.
But sometimes it doesn't pass. The bad days start piling up. Things you used to love don't feel fun anymore. You feel tired all the time, or empty, or like nobody would understand even if you told them. If that's ever how you've felt, I want you to hear this clearly:
It's okay not to be okay. And you don't have to handle it alone.
Feeling that way doesn't mean you're weak, or broken, or a bad Scout. It means you're a person, going through something hard. And there are people who want to help. Your parents. Any leader in this troop. A teacher, a school counselor, a coach, a doctor. Pick one and tell them. You can even just say, "I haven't been feeling okay lately, and I don't know why." That's enough.
Now here's the other half. Sometimes it won't be you. It'll be a friend. They've gotten really quiet. They stopped coming around. They say "I'm fine" in a way that doesn't sound fine.
Ask them. "Are you okay?" And if they say "I'm fine," ask again: "No, really. Are you okay?" Then listen. You don't have to fix anything. Just listening helps more than you'd think. And if what they tell you scares you, tell a trusted adult. That's not betraying them. That's being a real friend.
Scouts look out for each other. On the trail, and off it.
For leaders: If a Scout talks about feeling hopeless or about harming themselves, take it seriously, stay with them, and get help right away. Make sure their parents know. In the US, call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, free and available 24/7. Outside the US, Find A Helpline lists free, confidential helplines by country.